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(01-07-2018, 04:12 AM)Claraviolet Wrote: [Only registered and activated users can see links Click here to register] [Only registered and activated users can see links Click here to register] [Only registered and activated users can see links Click here to register] [Only registered and activated users can see links Click here to register] [Only registered and activated users can see links Click here to register] [Only registered and activated users can see links Click here to register] [Only registered and activated users can see links Click here to register] @BurnsyCEO
As you guys game me several suggestions so far....I wanted to tell you guys something.

I am thinking of getting marred just like my mom wanted. I though I couldn't do it even for her....but she is ruining her health and she is always crying...I can't take it.

She asked me for 6 months of my life. So, for 6 months, I will try to become someone new...but as far as I know I would never be able to do it. So, I will probably get a divorce after that. My mom said, she would never ask for anything ever again. So, even if this is killing me, I will do just like she asked.

After that, I really hope she would leave me alone. Now, I truly wish I could somehow make my love towards my mom....less intensive...I don't like myself for giving in..but I can't just see her like that anymore.
Damn...this all. I just hope a tsunami comes or our planet disappear just like that

I am not a kind person. But I really hope my family would accept and respect my decisions after 6 months.
Thanks a lot for everything guys. Some of you were really harsh with your words and such...and I know you meant good....
Just thank you. 
Talk to your mother again. Try to make her understand. You still got time

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Kaynil
Yonko

So what is what will happen after the six months? I understand she will take care of the groom, but I mean between you and her?
If just like you see coming, the marriage doesn't work what do you think might happen next? It sounds to me that even accepting the marriage means just postponing that tense situation you already have.

If you are going to marry, make sure to talk with your future husband, maybe he can help you to become more independent while understanding that you are trying to please your mother and that he still will have a bride by the end of it, maybe in those 6 months he can become another support as a friend. I mean, if you already jumping into this try to make the best of it.

That said, I think you should contact [Only registered and activated users can see links Click here to register] and other Indian friends that might know and understand your situation enough to better help you. I hope you do keep us updated on how are things going.

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Claraviolet
Akatsuki

(01-10-2018, 01:04 AM)Kaynil Wrote: [Only registered and activated users can see links Click here to register] and other Indian friends that might know and understand your situation enough to better help you. I hope you do keep us updated on how are things going.


Well, she said, she will leave me alone after six months and she would never ask anything again and I have already told him...but...I believe he thinks I am being just stupid and childish.
I can't do that.
Email is one thing but calling, meeting...no way

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Kaynil
Yonko

(01-10-2018, 01:22 AM)Claraviolet Wrote: Well, she said, she will leave me alone after six months and she would never ask anything again and I have already told him...but...I believe he thinks I am being just stupid and childish.
I can't do that.
Email is one thing but calling, meeting...no way


How come you think that's his opinion of you? How is he feeling regarding the marriage?

And why is that you don't want to do anything further than email? Would you be a risk for meeting your friends?

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BurnsyCEO
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(01-05-2018, 01:11 PM)Kaynil Wrote: I am bugged by the fact that what I said pusshed him out. I didn't mean to make him abandon the community at all.

Any news on your situation,  Clara?

Don't worry about it. I thought he was a respectable member but after reading his comments i wouldn't care if he left.

(01-07-2018, 05:31 AM)Claraviolet Wrote:  I don't think I could ever stand being near a man. 
Thats the bit I said you need to get therapy for. Go see a shrink. If you're getting married you're gonna need it.

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Claraviolet
Akatsuki

(01-10-2018, 01:37 AM)Kaynil Wrote: How come you think that's his opinion of you? How is he feeling regarding the marriage?

And why is that you don't want to do anything further than email? Would you be a risk for meeting your friends?

Because he said to my father that I don't know how the world works. Well.. It's not encouraged here and I don't want to do things that my family dislike
(01-10-2018, 10:40 AM)BurnsyCEO Wrote: Don't worry about it. I thought he was a respectable member but after reading his comments i wouldn't care if he left.

Thats the bit I said you need to get therapy for. Go see a shrink. If you're getting married you're gonna need it.

I did. She gave up. She said people with strong personalities and opinions can't change that easily. She asked me to take it slow in my own way Sad

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Kaynil
Yonko

Sometimes you need to go through a few to find one who's methods are adequate. One giving up shows more on her persona than on you.

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KuranKaname
Pirate

Don't die and don't give in. Fight back, stay strong. I can't say anything else as I don't get your situation at all. I would have reached out for help.

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BurnsyCEO
NBF member

(01-10-2018, 11:39 AM)Claraviolet Wrote: Because he said to my father that I don't know how the world works. Well.. It's not encouraged here and I don't want to do things that my family dislike

I did. She gave up. She said people with strong personalities and opinions can't change that easily. She asked me to take it slow in my own way Sad

Sure clara. You expect to believe you found a therapist, had a few sessions, and made a case strong enough for her to give up in the few days between when I first told you to and now. I mean if you're going to lie put some effort into making it believable.

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Claraviolet
Akatsuki

(01-11-2018, 11:14 PM)BurnsyCEO Wrote: Sure clara. You expect to believe you found a therapist, had a few sessions, and made a case strong enough for her to give up in the few days between when I first told you to and now. I mean if you're going to lie put some effort into making it believable.

You...I got no reason to lie ya know.... I even got the stupid therapy book she gave me. She said something about exposure therapy and wrote a bunch of stuff in it... Sigh...I am not good at lying ya know. That's what got me into this situation in the first place.
Also it's been a month ya know... May be more than that

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